To become whole - together .

The love affair is awarded by many a sovereign place in the pursuit of life. In the romantic relationship, the deepest meaning and self-realization of life is sought. In the Western world, we depend more and more on a romantic partner for both the support, attachment and closeness that we humans strive for and depend on.

 

In addition, many of us at one level or another strive to maintain love in a kind of inexplicable mystique. We have a hope of being able to elevate the romance of the relationship to a phenomenon that one can neither should nor should hope to understand, nor to analyze and describe in universal principles and laws.

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This metaphysical approach to love adds a high risk to the relationship. For what do you do when the first magic of infatuation subsides and everyday reality peeks out with the conflicts and disappointments, the deceptions and the pain that are part of most long-term relationships?

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Fortunately, today we understand a lot about love. For the past many years, science has sought to demystify love and uncover its laws and principles. The Gottman Institute and the University of Washington are responsible for one of the most ambitious research projects in relationships that has been made. Over 3,000 couples have become fully close to the body - for now over 20 years, and many valuable things have been uncovered through this research.

 

It has been proven how the very fundamental connection that happens between mother and child, affects a person's full life path and thus also the relationship that the strongest connection a person experiences as an adult. It is now more clear how fundamental laws of attachment, rejection, closeness and intimacy work in people from earliest childhood to recent old age. The Gottman Institute, together with the University of Washington, has made a more accurate mapping of how these things play out in the relationship and they have developed a very successful therapy for healing between life partners.

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Injury and Healing in the Close Relationships

We all carry around a burden of history and pain inside and we all have wounds of love in us. But that does not mean we are trapped in our past with no hope for the future. Just as we are often hurt in close relationships, so too are we healed in our close relationships. Our life partner is usually our closest and deepest relationship, and although we often experience great pain and failure in this relationship, it also holds great potential for healing. Healing individually - together - is in short what Gottman couples therapy offers.